Softly Be: The Natural Way—Means Feel Spirit Presence Within Keep the Heart Open Remember Love As A Way of Being Allow Spiritual Answers To Be More Real Than Problems Respond with Ease and Fluidity Re-pattern the Nervous System to Peace Live from Compassion and Release Judgment Regenerate in Vital Life Support Relationship Connection *Share Contribution and Affluence *Live Free from the Neurologically Addictive rush of Adrenaline from Stress
How Can We Softly Be Amidst Suffering?
Bill’s wife Susan sharply conveys her disappointment with him, and he feels inferior and criticized, how can he Softly Be? Irene’s husband is harsh and devalues her; her confidence wanes and her creativity dies, how can she Softly Be? David experiences a divorce and financial reversal that feels crushing, how can he Softly Be? Anna’s recent spiritual growth creates an unexpected backlash of jealousy, betrayal and withdrawal of support from her fiancee, how can she Softly Be?
When our lives re-structure, collapse, change, and change how can we Softly Be? When our nervous system is creating adrenaline and our blood pressure is rising, how can we Softly Be? When our individual, community and global issues escalate, and we feel mounting insecurity and stress, how can we Softly Be?
Keys to Softly Be: Experiential
Relax into this experiential practice to Softly Be. However, allow this to flower within you spontaneously, rather than turning it into a set-in-stone technique. Thus, Softly Be with the practice and experience it as ever fresh and new each time you contemplate.
Read a few lines, and close eyes to contemplate the message before opening eyes to continue. Rest into the practice with ease.
• Settle into a comfortable position • Breathe in a slow, deep, rhythm, in and out of the nose • Open to feel the place in you where there is perfect peace • This place in you remembers Oneness with Creator God Presence, as here, now • Notice any sense of stress, tension, emotion – feel and release • Pause, observe what triggers a reaction or a resistance • “Zoom Out” and be the observer of what is occurring • Notice the stress feeling, or adrenaline increase, or emotional charge, without suppressing it or escaping…sit still with it and allow the stress of soften, flow, release • Try not to act or make decisions from reaction or resistance • Notice the tendency to resist, to “harden to” an experience that feels stressful or painful • Soften instead • Let go of resistance to the totality of the situation, rest in the peace within • Embrace what arises within and with life from Spirit Presence, from compassion • Notice the tendency to escape or avoid the inner discomfort or difficult situation • Face it instead… Be with it instead… • Simply welcome the thoughts, feelings and sensations and Softly Be with them • Allow everything to become slower – the breath, the thoughts, the experience • Let go of focus on the triggering person or event and softly stay with the trigger feeling • Just stay with the inner experience • Ask for the Divine Grace here now (Something Greater than a personal self) to dissolve this belief, reaction, contraction, limitation • Change focus from the content of the experience to the one who compassionately Sees the content (this is a major shift) • Softly Be the Love or the Peace Presence that Observes • Experience compassion for those that deliver the trigger – they are giving you a camouflaged major gift. (It is actually you giving you the gift). When you can “Softly Be” with that gift, great vistas of growth and freedom open for you….
A Huge Key to Softly Be
*You may think of Softly Be as a flower going from flowering to bud form and back to open flowering again. In other words, if you imagine your whole body (or whole being) as a flower – allow it to rest inward in bud form to the situation, and then flower again as love and peace, unaffected by the situation.(This is a distinct and profound experience when it actually occurs for patients in our sessions and students in our classes.)
The bud form of this practice is a total surrender of the concept of a struggling and surviving “me” in who needs approval or control. It reflects an emptying of wounds, fears, limitations. And then the Spirit Presence, alive in the heart, flowers in harmony, beauty and joy.